Love ain’t easy!

15 04 2016

In a couple of weeks I will have been married for 8 months! Life’s journey took me down the aisle after meeting a great man who captured my heart! A mutual friend kept telling me that she had someone she wanted me to meet and she felt we would really hit it off since we had a lot in common. This went on for several months and I got a little impatient waiting for him to be “ready” to jump into the dating world but eventually we met.

Jim is an LMFT and he had a contest by asking people to submit their story or the story of someone who had experienced a significant life change. I was encouraged to submit my story by our mutual friend and I did. A few weeks later, I received an e-mail from Jim letting me know my story had won and he wanted to post it on his web-site and we made arrangements for me to pick up the $25 gift card from him at his office shortly after that! I stopped by his office to pick up the gift card I won and we ended up talking for about 20 minutes in the hallway. I remember thinking how cute he was and what a great conversation we had but that I’d probably never hear from him again. It took him a little while but he finally contacted me and we met for coffee which then led to a hiking trip at Radnor Lake and then meeting up one day to share our life stories with each other the day before we went out on our first date. We both wanted to share what we had been through so we could decide if we still wanted to go on a date. It was an amazing experience to be authentic and experience honesty about who we are and what we had been through.

We went on our first date on August 29, 2014 at Carrabba’s in Green Hills and then to see the movie The 100 Foot Journey and were married exactly one year later on August 29, 2015 at Scarritt Bennett Center in Nashville! A few months after we started dating, Jim let me know he had a confession to make. I braced myself as I prepared to hear something bad but instead he let me know that actually I had been the only entry in his write your story contest and that’s why I won!!!  My mouth fell open and I said, “You mean I won by default?”  He laughed and said, “yes!” Then he made it a point to say, “but your story was really good, though!” Nice save, Jim!

We had a bumpy obstacle on our wedding day but we endured and plowed forward into love and starting our journey in life together. I am ever so grateful to have this man by my side. Despite the obstacles we’ve faced, learning how to love again with wounds and trauma from our past, figuring out how to maneuver through the work of being a couple which is so hard, we are finding our way. Communication is hard. Loving even when I am so stinking frustrated with him is hard. Having to sit back and watch him get hurt or deal with something heavy is hard. So many things about being married to this man who is willing to work on “us” is so very hard but so worth it. To truly believe that we are both in it for the long haul is what helps me keep going even on the tough days. The tough days are what make the really outstanding, joyful days so much better because we know it is the fruit of our labor of sticking together! God is good!

Be blessed!





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